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A Single Step

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I got up early this morning.

This is, for me, quite an accomplishment.

I am NOT naturally a morning person. I’ve been a night owl as long as I can remember. If left to my own devices with no clocks and no responsibilities, I’d be one of those vampires (along with teenagers) who goes to bed at 4 a.m. and wakes up at 11.

In fact, I DID that my freshman year of college. I purposely never had a class before 11:30 a.m, and I routinely stayed up until 4 a.m. doing my work.

I love the quiet of the night; it makes me feel creative and full of possibilities.

Or it used to. That kind of life hasn’t been viable for a long, long time, thanks to kids and day jobs.

But I digress.

There’s a reason I’m telling you about my sleep habits.

I got up early this morning to write this—the first real post I’ve ever written for this blog.

I want to write lots of these in the future.

I want to write a newsletter, do a podcast, create videos and downloadable PDFs and sell merch and maybe write a book at some point.

And, I still need to finish building this site so this shit has a place to LIVE.

In short, there’s LOTS to do—and none of it fits neatly into the rest of my day.

I have a full-time job. I care about spending time with my husband. I spend 6-9 hours a week training. I cherish my Sunday-morning Zumba class and having après-dance coffee or brunch with my friends.

I could go on. And I don’t even have to worry about kids anymore: I have two, but they’re grown and (mostly) flown.

I’ve tried writing at night… but that doesn’t work anymore.

My brain is tired from my workday, and my sleep is very unpredictable these days due to menopause.

I’m just not productive at night the way I used to be.

That leaves me with…. Early morning.

So? Get to the point, Miriam.

The point is that getting up early is really hard for me. Left to my own devices, I lack any motivation to get out of bed.

I did it anyway.

I did it to start forming a new habit—to adopt a new way of being in the world.

A new identity.

You know how you become that person who gets up early in the morning to write and work on their side hustle?


You do that once.

Then you do it again tomorrow.

And the next day. And so on.

Pretty soon it’s a habit.

Then it’s just a part of who you are.

This post is not about getting up early.

This post is about getting started.

With WHATEVER it is you’ve been wanting to get started with.

Could be lifting or some other kind of training.

Could be eating better.

Could be drinking more water.

Could be reading more book or watching less TV or trying something new during sexytime. 

The journey of a thousand miles begins with a single step.

Lao tzu

One of the things I’ve learned since I started training is that this quote actually is true.

Like most aphorisms, we hear this one so much that we tend to write it off as a cliché.

But also like most aphorisms, if you stop for a minute and really explore this one, it is tremendously, profoundly important.

Taking that first step is often very difficult, for all kinds of reasons.

But there are things we can do to smooth the path and make it easier. There are all kinds of related principles and factors that I can talk about in the future, and probably will.

There’s even a whole field of science behind it.

(If you currently have habits you want to either form or break (and if you don’t have ANY, I question whether you’re human), I can’t recommend James Clear’s book Atomic Habits highly enough.)

For today, though, it doesn’t matter what your thing is.

What really matters—what I want you to take away from this post—is knowing that you can.

You CAN.

You CAN get take that first step.

You CAN get started, no matter how resistant you feel about it or how impossible it may seem to you right this minute. 

You CAN.

How do I know?

Because you’re a badass.

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1 Comment

  1. Annmarie A Baldini

    Just cued into this blog through your recent interview on Brave Women at Work. THIS is fantastic! It’s exactly the right message for this time, right now. Miriam is a powerhouse and I’m proud to know her from my days in finance. Since then I’ve failed brilliantly on my quest to find my voice and be the me I’m designed to be. This site will support me through that process!

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